It's important to recognize there's always room for improvement, and feedback is always coming from somewhere. Even if you aren't doing anything "wrong", you might be presenting wrong or someone isn't fully understanding, which in itself is something to improve
Yea, it is hard to always detach our identity from our behaviors. Once we are past that and understand our behaviors can evolve then we learn to let go of our ego.
Great point in 1) I was on both ends: not communicating a lot of the "behind the scenes" work and not recognizing someone for doing the same work because I simply wasn't aware of it.
Love your take on vague feedback.
It's important to recognize there's always room for improvement, and feedback is always coming from somewhere. Even if you aren't doing anything "wrong", you might be presenting wrong or someone isn't fully understanding, which in itself is something to improve
Thank you Jordan! Yea there is always something to improve.
Taking feedback as a 'means to improve' vs a 'defect in me' is the growth mindset.
Acknowledgment just takes time to sink in. I found it useful to circle back and discuss the feedback again once the emotional response is gone.
Indeed. No matter how good we are, the moment he hear something "harsh" our emotional response kicks in. It is good to take some time to reflect.
Acknowledging was always my biggest flaw. As I understood more, I realized it was a battle of ego which never allowed me to feel less at any cost!
Also, I loved the bit about asking for specific instances. It makes the other person to go a few levels deep.
Yea, it is hard to always detach our identity from our behaviors. Once we are past that and understand our behaviors can evolve then we learn to let go of our ego.
Great points!
When it's acknowledged, I'd say the rest becomes easy.
It certainly does!
That’s a great point @Eugene
Actionable feedback is a key to a more healthy team, and to grow in an individual professional level.
It's not just about giving any feedback. It's about giving a simple, actionable, direct one.
Nice write up, Raviraj!
Great point in 1) I was on both ends: not communicating a lot of the "behind the scenes" work and not recognizing someone for doing the same work because I simply wasn't aware of it.
Gregor wrote a great post that complements some of this https://open.substack.com/pub/gregorojstersek/p/keep-a-brag-list-of-the-wins-you?r=twgob&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email.