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So, Are we getting in our own way?

Really like how you have "How I manage it" bullet points for each reason.

I think everybody does this, at some point or another, but us engineers are especially guilty of it. I know I used to and have seen many colleagues do it as well.

Whether being an introvert or simple inexperience, we can do with more tips like the ones in your article Raviraj, thanks.

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Great article and callouts, Raviraj!

I resonate the most with assuming good intent:

> Assume good intent: Not all engineers are great at expressing disagreement. So, when someone makes a triggering statement, I try to find out their underlying point and ask clarifying questions.

Thank you a bunch for the mention on my weekly planning template article!

https://read.highgrowthengineer.com/p/how-i-plan-my-week-as-a-senior-engineer

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Yea, even passively assuming someone is out there to get you is a classic way to get defensive. It took a while for me to identify that subtle behavior in me.

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